Filed under: Joy | Tags: Hope, Joy, love, On-Purpose, Peace, Simple Truths, Thanks
Sometimes a kind word at the right moment can change a life forever.
There are times when I need to remind myself that life can be complicated, but happiness is really pretty simple. Like everyone else, I have doubts, fears and disappointments in my life, and need to remember what’s most important.
That’s when I turn to Finding Joy.
In just a few minutes it puts a smile in my heart when I need it most. The music, the photos and the words always take my breath away.
Just click here to watch, and if you’re inspired, feel free to pass along this link to a friend, family member or co-worker.
A little joy can be a wonderful thing!
(Disclaimer: at the very end of the movie you’ll get an opportunity to sign up for a free newsletter from Simple Truths, and also order the book that mirrors the movie. Please understand, there’s no pressure from me to act on those offers.)
Filed under: Appreciation, Recognition, Thanks | Tags: 1980s, actions, integrity, live it, love, loving, reputation, words
There’s another story I’d like to relate about Randy Raysbrook.
In case you haven’t read my first post about him, he came San Dieago to start and be the Director of the Navigators at UC San Diego while I was a student there.
One of the annual “events” on campus was the visit of “Brother Jed.” “Brother Jed” would come for a few days each winter to deliver his particular style of street preaching – a combination of abuse, taunting, insulting, and call to a life of perfection and devotion to Christ – in one of the very public areas on campus, usually during the time people would be out for a lunch break.
Two things Jed communicated loud and clear to the students there: 1) He (and God) hated almost everything about them and 2) he was so arrogant that he proclaimed himself to be perfected – no longer ever sinning.
Well, on this particular day, a number of us from some of the Christian ministries on campus (Navigators, IVCF, and Campus Crusade), along with quite a few students had gathered around Brother Jed to listen to him, agree when he was correct and refute him when he was out of line. But mostly, we Christians just listened.
At one point, Jed called for the self-proclaimed Christians in the crowd to step forward into the inside of the circle of people who had gathered round him. Several people, including Randy, stepped forward. Jed proceeded to berate them. He accused them of not truly following Christ. His “evidence” was that there was still sin on the campus. (Funny side comment: to the best of my knowledge, his basis for the accusation was at best hearsay, certainly not from any personal knowledge of anything that was happening on campus or in students’ lives.) He went on and on about that for several minutes before demanding that they defend themselves.
However, (kind of like Christ – as prophesied in Isaiah) they didn’t say anything. But someone from the crowd yelled out, “Hey Brother Jed!! They’re far more Christian than you are!”
Jed looked up, to see who was talking. And yelled something abusive back. I think it was something to the effect of “Why aren’t YOU here in the circle? You have no idea what you’re talking about!”
Then the guy in the crowd hollered back, “Look, I’m no Christian. But I know that that guy cares!!” (He pointed to Randy.) “He showed me he loved me. All you’re doing is showing hatred!”
At first, Randy looked at the guy in the crowd, with a look that said, “I have no idea who this is.” But as the guy talked about how Randy had helped him get back to his dorm once when he was under the influence of something (alcohol or drugs – it wasn’t clear), a look of recognition and amazement washed over his face.
It turned out, it had been probably about a year since Randy had helped the guy. He’d talked with him about Christ, but mostly just cared for his physical need to get back to his dorm safely. Randy had figured he’d just done the right thing, but nothing had come of it.
It wasn’t until Jed showed up and tried to harrass Randy, that Randy realized he’d been privileged to “plant a seed” in this guy’s life that had actually made a lasting impression. Even though he wasn’t ready to turn his life over to Christ, he had seen the difference Christ makes when one is truly following Him.
Randy was like that. It was as if he’d really taken to heart the quote attributed to St. Francis of Assissi:
Preach the gospel everywhere you go, and, if necessary, use words.
After Jed was done with his harangue, he retreated to the water and towel he’d brought while one of his assistants took up the mantle of verbally abusing people.
Randy quietly and respectfully went up to Jed to talk. He probably knew that Jed wouldn’t be around long enough to see or experience anything that was being done on campus by God through any of the Christians or Christian Ministries. So he just went to talk quietly and somewhat privately.
I saw him go. But I wasn’t near enough to hear everything that was said. What I do know is that Randy tried to firmly, but respectfully point out the fallacy of Jed’s claim to having achieved perfection – that he never sinned – that while he had been a sinner at one time, he never sinned any more. Whether it was due to his pride, or stubbornness, or indoctrination, I don’t know. But Jed either would not or could not see how he could possibly be a Christian and still fall into sinning – even once in a while.
Finally, Randy let him be. But left sad, and praying for him, as well as praying for the rest of those in that “ministry” – that they would soften their hearts and see their own pharisaical arrogance, and turn from their misguided (albeit well-intentioned) ways.
Randy LIVED the gospel more than he talked about it. (That’s not saying he didn’t talk about it. He just used words “when necessary.”) But what he DID was screaming far louder than anything he could have said.
Filed under: Appreciation, Thanks | Tags: 1980s, Commitment, Follow Through, Leadership, Thanks
Years ago, I was in school at UCSD. My first semester there saw me involved with Campus Crusade for Christ. and to a much lesser degree, InterVarsity Chritian Fellowship. I had been hoping to connect with Navigators, but there was no Navigator ministry on campus at that time.
The biggest reason for my interest in the Navigators was that one of my older brothers had been very involved with the Navigators when they were in college, and had benefited tremendously from that involvement… most significantly, as far as I could tell, from the discipline learned of scripture memorization. (One summer when he was home from college, he had me review with him a whole bunch of verses he’d memorized. It seemed like the box of verse cards would never end. He also gave me a copy of Daws which I read (amazingly enough – since I was hardly a “reader!) and found myself drawn to the charisma and character of Dawson Trotman.) And I knew I needed to develop more self-discipline and I wanted to grow in my relationship with Christ.
That summer, I was one of two guys who got to house-sit for the CCC Director while he and his family went away on a trip for a few weeks. When they got back, we were allowed to stay until the beginning of the new school year – so we wouldn’t have to go apartment-hunting for just a month’s worth of housing.
Well, during that time between their trip and the start of the new school year, there was a visitor who came to the door. That visitor turned out to be Randy Raysbrook. He was in San Diego to start a Navigators Ministry on the UCSD campus. His first objective was to get in touch with all the other Christian Ministry leaders to start/develop a good working relationship with them and to assure them of his desire to work together with them to reach the campus for Christ.
Well, as you can probably imagine, I was pretty excited! I would finally be able to be involved with the Navigators! (I’d waited a whole 8 months! Such a long time! Haha!) I had been developing with Crusade’s discipleship, but I was sure I’d grow so much more and so much faster with the discipline of the Navigator’s discipleship program.
So, when I got a chance, I talked to Randy and asked him about his new ministry, and when I could join up with them.
His response shocked me. He started by asking a question. “Are you already committed to working with Campus Crusade?”
I knew I’d said I would be willing to lead a small group for CCC. But I figured it wouldn’t be that big of a deal for me to back out… certainly not a month before the group was likely to get started! Still, I told him the truth… that I had said I’d lead a group.
His reply floored me. He said, “If you’re not good in your commitments to Campus Crusade, why would I be interested in having you join my ministry?”
Ouch! That hurt! He was calling my integrity into question. (Rightfully so. But it still hurt.)
Then he said, “Follow through on your commitment to Crusade, and then, if you still want to join with Navigators, we’ll talk when you’re done there.”
I couldn’t believe he was turning me down, a willing and interested participant! I mean, I knew I was leadership material. Even the Crusade leaders recognized that. Yet, here he was not only turning me down, but calling my integrity and reputation into question!
But he was absolutely right.
And not only was he teaching me, by refusing to accept me, he was also demonstrating his commitment to truly working with the other ministries – in front of another ministry’s leader – by refusing to “steal” a leader from their ministry.
Lesson one: If you make a commitment, follow through on it… no matter what. Otherwise, there’s no good reason for others to trust you.
If you’re starting something new, are you willing to take the tough road of refusing good people who have prior commitments until such time as they’ve fulfilled their prior commitments? If not, understand, you’re probably sabotaging your efforts right from the start. You’re teaching your new leaders that you don’t really value commitment nor loyalty. And later, when they’re tempted to move on, they’re less likely to demonstrate true commitment and loyalty. They’ll just dump you.
I’ll save the second lesson I learned from Randy for another post.
He emerged from the Metro at the L’Enfant Plaza Station in Washington, DC and positioned himself against a wall beside a trash basket.
By most measures, he was nondescript: a youngish white man in jeans, a long-sleeved T-shirt, and a Washington Nationals baseball cap.
From a small case, he removed a violin. Placing the open case at his feet, he shrewdly threw in a few dollars and pocket change as seed money, swiveled it to face pedestrian traffic, and began to play.
It was cold at 7:51am on Friday, January 12th, 2007. But the indoor heating from the station, shops, and people protected the instrument from damage.
He played six Bach pieces over the course of the next 43 minutes.
During that time, since it was rush hour, it was calculated that just over a thousand people went through the station, most of them on their way to work.
A couple of minutes into it,something revealing happened.
A woman and her preschooler emerged from the escalator. The woman is walking briskly and, therefore, so was the child. She held his hand. He kept twisting around to look at the violinist, as he was propelled toward the door by his mother.
“I had a time crunch,” recalled the woman later. “I had an 8:30 training class, and first I had to rush [my 3 year-old son] off to his teacher, then rush back to work, then to the training facility in the basement. There was a musician, and my son was intrigued. He wanted to pull over and listen, but I was rushed for time.”
So she did what she had to do. She deftly moved her body between her son’s and the violinist’s, cutting off her son’s line of sight. As they exited the arcade, the son was still craning to look.
Another minute went by before a middle aged man noticed there was a musician playing. The man slowed his pace and stopped for a few seconds and then hurried up to meet his schedule.
A half-minute later, the violinist received his first dollar tip: a woman threw the money in the violin case and, without stopping, continued to walk.
The action of the first woman was repeated by several other children. All the parents, without exception, forced their children to move on.
About 5 or 6 minutes into the performance, someone leaned against the wall to listen, but then looked at his watch and started to walk again.
Clearly he was late for work.
In the 43 minutes the musician played, only 6 people stopped and stayed for a minute or more. About 20 gave him money but continued to walk their normal pace. He collected $32.17.
When he finished playing and silence took over, only a few people who’d just stopped to listen for the last minute or so noticed it. No one applauded, exactly one person recognized him.
None of the other commuters knew this, but the violinist was Joshua Bell, one of the best musicians in the world. He played one of the most intricate pieces ever written with a violin worth $3.5 million.
Two days before his playing in the subway, Joshua Bell sold out at a theater in Boston and the price for merely “pretty good” seats was $100. He was used to getting paid about $1,000 a minute for his performances.
This is a real story. Joshua Bell playing incognito in the metro station was organized by the Washington Post as part of a social experiment about perception, taste and priorities of people.
The outlines were:
in a commonplace environment at an inappropriate hour: Do we perceive beauty?
Do we stop to appreciate it?
Do we recognize the talent in an unexpected context?
One of the possible conclusions from this experience could be:
If we do not have a moment to stop
and listen to
one of the best musicians
in the world
playing the best music
ever written,
how many other things are we missing?
Here are a few related links:
Original article, with video clips from the performance.
Answers to some of the questions people have asked about it.
The Audio recording of Joshua Bell’s full Metro performance.
Also, a few interesting excerpts from the original article:
Expert opinion on what would happen (prior to knowing the outcome):
Leonard Slatkin, music director of the National Symphony Orchestra, was asked … [w]hat did he think would occur, hypothetically, if one of the world’s great violinists had performed incognito before a traveling rush-hour audience of 1,000-odd people?
“Let’s assume,” Slatkin said, “that he is not recognized and just taken for granted as a street musician . . . Still, I don’t think that if he’s really good, he’s going to go unnoticed. He’d get a larger audience in Europe . . . but, okay, out of 1,000 people, my guess is there might be 35 or 40 who will recognize the quality for what it is. Maybe 75 to 100 will stop and spend some time listening.”
So, a crowd would gather?
“Oh, yes.”
And how much will he make?
“About $150.”
Thanks, Maestro. As it happens, this is not hypothetical. It really happened.
“How’d I do?”
We’ll tell you in a minute.
“Well, who was the musician?”
Joshua Bell.
“NO!!!”
Bell’s perspective prior to the event:
When Bell was asked if he’d be willing to don street clothes and perform at rush hour, he said:
“Uh, a stunt?”
Well, yes. A stunt. Would he think it . . . unseemly?
Bell drained his cup.
“Sounds like fun,” he said.
Bell’s one precondition:
For this incognito performance, Bell had only one condition for participating. The event had been described to him as a test of whether, in an incongruous context, ordinary people would recognize genius. His condition: “I’m not comfortable if you call this genius.” “Genius” is an overused word, he said: It can be applied to some of the composers whose work he plays, but not to him. His skills are largely interpretive, he said, and to imply otherwise would be unseemly and inaccurate.
Bell’s comments on his Stradivarious violin:
Bell always performs on the same instrument, and he ruled out using another for this gig. Called the Gibson ex Huberman, it was handcrafted in 1713 by Antonio Stradivari during the Italian master’s “golden period,” toward the end of his career, when he had access to the finest spruce, maple and willow, and when his technique had been refined to perfection.
“Our knowledge of acoustics is still incomplete,” Bell said, “but he, he just . . . knew.”
Bell doesn’t mention Stradivari by name. Just “he.” When the violinist shows his Strad to people, he holds the instrument gingerly by its neck, resting it on a knee. “He made this to perfect thickness at all parts,” Bell says, pivoting it. “If you shaved off a millimeter of wood at any point, it would totally imbalance the sound.” No violins sound as wonderful as Strads from the 1710s, still.
On the first piece he would play, Chaconne by J.S. Bach:
Bell decided to begin with “Chaconne” from Johann Sebastian Bach’s Partita No. 2 in D Minor. Bell calls it “not just one of the greatest pieces of music ever written, but one of the greatest achievements of any man in history. It’s a spiritually powerful piece, emotionally powerful, structurally perfect. Plus, it was written for a solo violin, so I won’t be cheating with some half-assed version.”
Bell didn’t say it, but Bach’s “Chaconne” is also considered one of the most difficult violin pieces to master. Many try; few succeed. It’s exhaustingly long — 14 minutes — and consists entirely of a single, succinct musical progression repeated in dozens of variations to create a dauntingly complex architecture of sound. Composed around 1720, on the eve of the European Enlightenment, it is said to be a celebration of the breadth of human possibility.
If Bell’s encomium to “Chaconne” seems overly effusive, consider this from the 19th-century composer Johannes Brahms, in a letter to Clara Schumann: “On one stave, for a small instrument, the man writes a whole world of the deepest thoughts and most powerful feelings. If I imagined that I could have created, even conceived the piece, I am quite certain that the excess of excitement and earth-shattering experience would have driven me out of my mind.”
Bell’s observations immediately following his performance:
[Josh was] sitting there in a hotel restaurant, picking at his breakfast, wryly trying to figure out what the hell had just happened back there at the Metro.
“At the beginning,” Bell says, “I was just concentrating on playing the music. I wasn’t really watching what was happening around me . . .”
Playing the violin looks all-consuming, mentally and physically, but Bell says that for him the mechanics of it are partly second nature, cemented by practice and muscle memory: It’s like a juggler, he says, who can keep those balls in play while interacting with a crowd. What he’s mostly thinking about as he plays, Bell says, is capturing emotion as a narrative: “When you play a violin piece, you are a storyteller, and you’re telling a story.”
With “Chaconne,” the opening is filled with a building sense of awe. That kept him busy for a while. Eventually, though, he began to steal a sidelong glance.
“It was a strange feeling, that people were actually, ah . . .”
The word doesn’t come easily.
“. . . ignoring me.”
Bell is laughing. It’s at himself.
“At a music hall, I’ll get upset if someone coughs or if someone’s cellphone goes off. But here, my expectations quickly diminished. I started to appreciate any acknowledgment, even a slight glance up. I was oddly grateful when someone threw in a dollar instead of change.” This is from a man whose talents can command $1,000 a minute.
Before he began, Bell hadn’t known what to expect. What he does know is that, for some reason, he was nervous.
“It wasn’t exactly stage fright, but there were butterflies,” he says. “I was stressing a little.”
Bell has played, literally, before crowned heads of Europe. Why the anxiety at the Washington Metro?
“When you play for ticket-holders,” Bell explains, “you are already validated. I have no sense that I need to be accepted. I’m already accepted. Here, there was this thought: What if they don’t like me? What if they resent my presence . . .”
I find it somewhat amazing… someone so accomplished, and so famous (even though I’d never heard of him), still had that all-too-common fear of rejection… the need to be loved, and the accompanying fear of not being appreciated, or possibly even being resented.
I was in First Grade at Stanford Elementary in 1968-1969. Since then the school has been renamed: Escondido Elementary. My teacher was a wonderful lady who instilled a love of learning, and encouraged curiosity.
Unfortunately, I don’t remember her name. I think it was Sullivan. But it may have been Stephenson, or Sorenson, or something else. I am pretty sure it started with the letter “s” and was 3 syllables. And I also don’t remember if she went by Miss or Mrs. I am confident that it wasn’t “Ms.” But that will have to suffice. And she was nice enough that I think she’d forgive me for muddling that up.
I remember Ms. S encouraging us to try to figure things out for ourselves.
I enjoyed the reading times, as she would gather the class into the front corner of the room – right by the window that had a shelf a few of us (mostly boys) could sit on. While we boys would mess around – trying to throw each other off the shelf surreptitiously, Ms. S. would read to us.
The technique for throwing each other off was really quite simple. All you’d have to do was get close enough to the next guy. Then, as you’re quietly swinging your legs over the shelf, you’d hook the closest leg behind the next guy’s leg and get it behind his calf or knee. Then with your other leg you would push backward against his ankle while simultaneously pushing forward with the hooked leg. If he wasn’t paying enough attention, he’d be slung off the shelf. If you were quick and clever it would look as if he was trying to get off.
Somehow we were able to pay attention to the stories while still playing our “king of the shelf” game. I think that was because we were putting more mental effort into paying attention to the stories so we wouldn’t get caught, and less attention on our little side-game. And she allowed us to do that, so long as we weren’t too disruptive. That must have taken an awful lot of patience and understanding on her part! And yet, while she didn’t stomp out our little game, she applied enough discipline to assure that we knew the primary objective was to be there for the reading, not for our game.
In other words, she let First Grade boys be First Grade boys without losing discipline.
By contrast, one day she wasn’t there. We had a substitute teacher. The substitute didn’t know how to instill interest while maintaining both a sense of fun and reasonable discipline. The lesson plan called for us to break up into small groups of 2 or 3 students and examine some bones. I remember getting completely fascinated by the bones – trying to figure out what they were from and how they might go together. I was so lost in what I was doing that I didn’t hear her call us over for reading time. Next thing I knew, the substitute teacher sent me to the Principle’s office! I remember thinking, “This is ridiculous! WAY over the top in terms of discipline!” I was hurt. I felt I was being punished for being curious… for getting too interested in what she had asked us to do. And the punishment didn’t seem to me to fit the “crime” (which to me seemed like no “crime” at all.) If I had done something wrong it seemed like I should have been talked to, or at worst made to sit up front close to the teacher for the reading so she could keep a closer eye on me. I knew Ms. S. would never have done something so harsh and embarrassing. She would have not had the problem in the first place because she would have made sure I’d heard her – that I would have known that it was reading time. (She knew that I enjoyed reading time. The substitute assumed I just hated reading and was trying to avoid it/her.)
One other quick story from that time…
One day, outside of normal school hours, Ms. S. was busy redecorating the classroom. I was there with a friend. (I don’t remember his name at all.) She was using a staple gun to put up the construction-paper decorations.
While she worked on cutting out one more decoration, my friend grabbed the staple gun and bragged that he knew how it worked. Then, quickly aiming it up he fired off one staple. The only problem was that in aiming it up to show me, he pointed it at me. And the staple that came out glanced off my temple just to the right of my right eye. It probably took him all of 2-3 seconds to do. And Ms. S. was both horrified and furious. Her horror was quickly relieved when I reported that I wasn’t hurt at all. But she had already grabbed the stapler from my friend and sternly ordered him to never touch it again. When he realized what he’d done he was pretty scared and very sorry. He wasn’t trying to hurt me, just show off his knowledge and “skill.” Frankly, I remember being more impressed with his strength in being able to squeeze the trigger than with his knowledge. I mean, how tough is it to figure out that you squeeze a trigger to make something like that work?
It felt good to know that Ms. S. was concerned about our (my) safety.
So, for being a good, caring teacher…
THANK YOU Ms. S!
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Filed under: Anonymous, Thanks | Tags: 1960s, Flight Attendant, Stewardess, Thanks
The first person I want to thank is someone from my earliest memory… when I was 2 years old.
My family was moving across the country from Syracuse, NY to Stanford, CA. My three brothers and father were driving across the country. My mother and two sisters were flying with me.
All I remember is sitting in the seat by the window on the right side of the plane. (Yes, it undoubtedly was an airplane with propellers, not a jet!) I think we were toward the back of the plane.
At some point in the flight, probably pretty early on, the Stewardess (back then they were called Stewardesses – not Flight Attendants) came by our row to see if there was anything we wanted. She was so nice and helpful. All I wanted was my “big” red tractor to play with. She got it down from the overhead storage and handed it to me. I was happy.
Sorry, I don’t know your name, and honestly don’t remember enough to be able to describe you, but you still served us graciously. And that incident was important enough that it made a lifelong impact. So, whoever you are, if you were a Stewardess serving flights from the East Coast back in the summer of 1964…
THANK YOU!
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Thought I’d start a new blog… to express my gratitude for each of the people who have positively impacted me throughout my life.
I figure this will help me remember, help me keep a positive attitude, and possibly even benefit those I write about… if they ever discover this blog. (And I expect that’s probably a pretty big “if.”)
Meanwhile, for the few of you who actually read this blog who aren’t written about, maybe it will be an encouragement. Maybe it will lift your spirits a bit. You may have your eyes opened to some things to be grateful for yourself. Or maybe you’ll be reminded of someone you want to thank.
If this has a positive impact on you or you’d like to share about someone you’re thankful for, please feel free to add your comments.
We can ALL use encouragement from time to time.
Dave